Weekly updates... Friday Night was kind of Boring...

Praise the Lord...I had a beautiful week at work this week and it was a joy having fun as well as friends.

I had a wonderful training the last 3 days and although I had to go to work early, I was happy =) Had lots of fun with my trainers from the US .. simply love it!!

My work week ended well on Friday and I was able to apply 2 simple truths from the bible "Serve One Another" and "Speak to each other using gracious words".

Praise The Lord!

But Friday Night was kind of lonely... Maybe i was tired,kind of having a heavy head but I felt very bored staying at home. The TV programme is boring.. my grandma is sleeping,my Mum is always working, Dad is overseas, friends are busy with their arrangements, girlfriend is also busy, felt a little sad in a way. Worst thing is that I can't sleep.. Phoo!

Young man like me should have some life on a Friday Night. Should Have gone Out for a good dinner with a friend...Haha yea!! Boy ... can't imagine when i grow old. Anyway.. kind of battery very low so stayed at home to catch some sleep which didnt happen.

Sometimes... I wonder when life is like that... and God is also silent... What is He thinking about? =) I know I know... He thinks about me, about you etc etc... but I really want to know in that moment... What is God really thinking about?

I mean I am here in my house and God is here also... and He is just around and must be thinking of something right? He might be saying something, praying about something, looking at something... thinking about something and if I could somehow be able to share his thoughts.. wow!! Don't mind being at home alone!!



Good news is I got a visitor from Malaysia , Edmund!! My good friend is in town today =) haha... He had a meeting in JB and he called me up today, he came into SG and we are meeting tommorrow. Can't wait to see him.. He always brings joy to me.. love to catch up with this good friend of mine.

Then I would be attending my colleague's wedding in the night. Feeling very bad and paiseh that I had to be late.. had no choice but to be...anyways...

Okays... Time to Sleep... My Prayer before I sleep is this " Dear Lord... may You make my life everyday... a life of answered prayer."

Amen!

A Life Of Answered Prayer

Lord Make My Life EveryDay An Answered Prayer...

That Everytime I think of It, It will Almost Seem Unfair...

For A Man Like Me Can Have So Many Answered Prayer...

If Life Should End Tommorrow...I will leave a Millionaire...

Cos In My Heart I Will Take With Me ........A Life Of Answered Prayer

Holy Spirit- You Are Welcome In This Place

Holy Spirit You Are Welcome In This Place.....

Omnipotent Father Of Mercy And Grace

You Are Welcome In This Place.....

In Your Presence, There is Healing Divine, No Other Power Can Heal But Yours

The Joy Of the Holy Spirit... what an abundant fulfillment of the human's soul

Be Our Joy and Guide... Be Our Comforter and Friend... Be Our Shelter and Strength..

I Am So Glad To Be Your Friend O Holy Spirit...Since The Day You Came Into My Room..

What A Joy It has been To Have Known You In This Place..

Holy Spirit ...You Are Most Welcome In This Place

I Love You Holy Spirit!

I had a very good time with the Holy Spirit this evening. It happened not as planned but I was drawn towards Him as I was sitting here 2 hours ago after dinner.

I was in front of my comp when I felt a prompting in my heart and at the same time saw a vision of myself walking and praying downstairs of my house. The Holy Spirit was telling me that He wants to spent time with me.

So I left my seat and went out to be with God.

As I was walking, My mind and thoughts started to be drawn towards Him almost effortlessly like a metal to a magnet. I started to pray but was soon lost just thinking about the Holy Spirit.

He reminded me about a book I read some 8 years ago, it is called "Good Morning Holy Spirit" by Pastor Benny Hinn.
He led me to recall that in this book, Pastor Benny Hinn says that although many Christians spend time reading God's word, singing songs to God but very few spend time communing with the Holy Sprirt. He lives inside of us, but very seldom do we direct our attention to Him.

As this was going through my mind, i started to be quiet before God and could sense His gentle and tangible presence welling up inside of me. It is like Iron Man in the movie where He got this shiny battery in his heart.

The Lord continued to remind of how in my life, He guided me like a parent to a child, He sheltered me from the storm, He gave me victories and even through the tough times, He is like the strong tower that never shakes. Throughout my life, He is always good towards me and was never negative towards me. The song "Wind Beneath My Wings" started to play inside of me.

"Did you Ever know that you're my Hero?
You're everything I wish I could be
I could fly higher than an eagle
Cos You are the Wind Beneath My wings"

At this point, I was very humbled and touched by this truth that was being revealed to me. All the time, I sense the Holy Spirit's presence in my heart growing stronger and stronger.

He continues to assure me of His promises and grace in the past and it still stands today. He gave me the faith to believe and see myself in a whole new way.

It was a very good time/encounter with the Lord. I hope and pray that tommorrow, it will be continue on.

Praise the Lord! And May You Commune and draw nearer to God the Holy Spirit. He loves you and yearns to have you sit under His the Shelter of His Wings. What a priveledge to be able to dwell in the secret place of God.

What We Often Forget...

It dawned upon me like a light bulb turned on inside me that all of us have very short-term memory.

At least for most of us city-dwellers, we hurry from one activity to another, from one meeting to another, from people to people that we usually forget the good things (usually the small ones) that people has done for us.

I suspect also, having observing people of my generation and kids nowadays that we are not very well-taught in knowing how to recipocrate in the things we say and do when others help us or is kind towards us. We do not know really what to say or do.

We often say "Thank You" and often mean it at that point in time... then as the days goes by... we forget. Or We say thank you and that's all. We are forever saying thank you period.

This oftens happen to me and also from me to others... how often we forget the people who has prayed for us and helped us and also how often they forget the extra mile we took to help them.

I have seen in the past few weeks squabbles and unfriendliness when things at present do not turn out well and we focus on what is in front of us and fight for our rights ,forgetting the good friendship that has been formed in the past.

We all fall into the same category often when things get rough and we love to win, hate to be wrong, when we do not think hard enough to understand, when we based on our own experiences that shape our perspectives and we use our well justified intentions to push the "Blame" on each other, what they have and have not done.

Both sides can be guilty of doing this if we do not sit down and recollect for a moment , weighing whether is relationship more important than our agenda.

People who do not practice this often creates reationships that are superficial and shallow.

And we shouldn't be surprised if I say that we also often forget about God and His Goodness too.

Now... what can we do to help ourselves about it?

1) I realised that the most effective way is to write things down. Not just who has done good to us but also the feelings we have as a result of receiving that good gesture from others. Feelings are what will cause us to remember when we sincerely received the good things others has prepared and given to us.

2) Often Give Thanks To God and also remember the person who has been a blessing to us by being a blessing in return

We are imperfect but let's not forget... to be gracious and kind to each other and live happy ad peaceful lives.

Where Did I Put My Stuff? It Was Suppose to be There And It Disappeared

Have you ever felt like that before? Like you thought you left something on your table or on your shelf or in your pants and the next thing you knew when you find it , it just disappeared!!

So how do you feel about it? Lost? Irritated? Panicky? Sad? Thinking Hard?

Well.. this week I misplaced a set of my own drawers keys from the office this week.
So... being a cool person =) , I wasn't panicking... I was thinking to myself,"I think I left it at home somewhere on my table top or near my bed. I will go home and find it and bring it back to the office tommorrow. Nothing to sweat about =) "

But when I reached home, I found out that it ain't where it was suppose to be... So I thought to myself,"Well... maybe my mum / maid took it by mistake."

To my surprise, they didnt and I went back to work the next day without my drawer keys again.. "Where can it be?", I thought to myself. "Could I have dropped it when I got off the taxi the other night? Dont't think so."

Okay now what? No key means no pen...no calculator.... no place to lock my things.. etc etc..

So I decide I shall get any bunch of spare keys and try unlocking my drawer , maybe it will work , you know by some coincidence!

So I borrowed a bunch of drawer keys from my colleague and hope that it could turn on some magic for me.

It didnt... oh well... there must be something I can do without calling up the maintenance department.. Kind of embarassing having to relate my story to him...

Guess what? When I stepped home that day, I went into my room and the first thing I saw was my Drawer keys lying there under a book.

Ha!! Why didnt I see that earlier?

Well... Now all is well... Life is back to normal... and the Maintenance Guy can have a more meaningful job to do.

I learnt something from this interesting episode ... I learnt how to be patient and think... committing it to the Lord.. somehow in the most common place, I will find the answer. Why didn't I see it earlier Lord?

Praise God!

License To Break Free!

Have you heard of the story of the centipede and the frog?

It goes like this....
"
One day, Mr Centipede wants to cross over to the other side of the lake. So he went to Froggy and asked if Froggy would be kind enough to let him ride on his back while Froggy swims over to the other side.

Now Froggy was a little suspicious and said ,'Wait a minute... How do I know if you wont bite me on my head and kill me?'

To which Mr Centipede said ,'Oh .. of course I won't. If I do that in the middle of the lake,and you drown, I will go down with you cos I can't swim!! I dont want to drown!'

Froggy thought for a moment and said ,'Oh ok... I will help you this once.'

And Mr centipede climbed onto Froggy's back and they both went into the waters to reach the other side.

Halfway through, Mr Centipede bit Froggy on the back of his head and they both went "Ahhhhh!!!" down together and drown at the bottom of the lake. Quite a sad case cos Mr Centipede couldn't resist the urge to Bite.
"

The moral of the story as we are told is this: a centipede being a centipede cannot resists what its natural instinct tells it to do. Likewise for a man and a woman, there are things that is inborn and cannot be changed at all.'

Think about it for a moment... Have someone told you this recently? That you have something and there's no point changing it cos it is inborn? And you know that it serves to 'cripple' you in doing what is right and living a life with full freedom.

Or you have that something in your life, whether is it a bad habit, a physical defect, a generational addiction like gambling , smoking etc. that is passed down from your elders that you are told you cannot get rid of?

Well.. the truth is .. it is not meant to stay with you once you have Jesus in your life.

The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17 "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!"

What the voices are saying is to you is "That's the way it is to be.. cannot change.."
But what God is saying to you is "It is meant to be changed My Child! Believe in Me, I will change it"

God says to you and I, that we are born again which means in the past, we follow whatever we are born with , with the set of attitudes and conditions we have in our lives, but now, when we are given a new life in Jesus, we no longer are subjected to the curses and ways of the world that we live in, but are free to claim the healing, the restoration, the power to live the kind of life that is victorious!!

Thing is Do we believe in that kind of Power for such a kind of living?

You and I are not meant to be like Mr Centipede who cannot break off from his instinct to because he cannot help it and ended up drowning, but we are now given a new life where we can say 'no' to the things that are not beneficial and live a life of great freedom!!

We now have a Spiritual Father in heaven who is God whom we are given the rights to be his sons and daugthers to inherit what He has in Him and that is REAL Life with Power!!

Man in the Flesh gives birth to sin and bondage but God give births to new abundant Living!

So let's claim God's healing and His power to break the bad habits in our lives that harms us and choose to believe that we can live a life of constant VICTORY!!

Start Believing today!!

Walking with Attitude - Never Say Die!!

I had a very wonderful weekend at the YouthNet 288 retreat. Made some new friends and caught up with many old ones as well.

The Lord has bless me with a very refreshing trip and a truly enjoyable one ....serving God and learning from God.

We had an award presentation in my group with some of us winning the "Yoda" award, the "Happy Man" award, and the "Brightest Star" Award !!

As I interacted together with my group mates, "Iron Sharpened Iron", I could sense the passion of seeking the Lord in my fellow group members and also through their sharing know the hunger and faith in drawing nearer to God. This inspired me to develop a closer relationship in the Lord and to be someone who takes on God's word seriously.

Prayers Answered

1) I went to this retreat seeking for a direction in my life in the area of my work. The Lord spoke to me through a fellow brother who prayed for me during the first session. The Lord affirmed His will for me as he described with accuracy the situation I was in and also assured me of His mighty hand My question was settled since then.

2) The Lord also showed me with certainty one area of blessings and moulding he would like to do in my life and was a confirmation to the prayer I said earlier this year. He confirmed it in the things I did during this retreat and also spoken to me directly and through His word teaching me deeper truths and applications in life.

Lesson Learnt

On the second night, we took the passover meal, the way the Messainic Jews does and after that meal, we did a "Cross-over" over a platform in the swimming pool onto the other side. This Cross-over signifies the leaving of Eygpt, (the worldly pursuits of life) and into God's promises and new life.

As I was preparing my heart to do the crossing, I told the Lord in faith that I would pursue a life of higher calling, walking in His ways and delighting in His word. To have a made up mind once again to pursue His ways and things that delights His heart.

I was unsure if I could manage it but sense faith rising up from within me as I prayed. As I crossed over to the other side, I knew that I was walking over to a new way of life, brighter and more blessed than ever before. It was something that was answered as I walked on.

Application

Well.. there are still struggles and problems to face after this retreat when I go back, but there in my heart lies a deeper anchor that says... Don't give up... Carry on walking in victory... Just don't give up...

Brothers and Sisters... it is true for everyone of us. The victory is already won for us on the cross and is for us as long as we dont give up walking and drawing nearer to God. We may stumble and fall at times,but don't give up, just stand right up and walk again. Have a Never-Say-Die Attitude!!

James 1:3-4 " For you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finished its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking in anything."

ThanksGiving

Thank God for the lessons in life that only seeks to challenge our faith in Him and to know that this faith in Him is not meant to be shaken.

Praise the Lord!!

Wednesday 14th May

Today, I woke up feeling very tired and having a headache. Had many late nights so i guess it accumulates to this tiredness. I hope to actually sleep less though, 6 hours is enough if I can, but given the work load and stuffs, I seem to need more time adjusting.

Hope to have more energy to work, serve, minister, and study. Time is precious....and rest too... but I would like to have the energy to work fast and hard and then the time to rest and play. And not when it is time to work... some days feeln tired, time to rest.... cant sleep or mind still thinking of things.

Had an MC today, rested at home since it was raining very heavily... kind of bored..

I love exploring new ideas and new things but also learnt how to go to the Lord and enjoy Him.

Thats what I did yesterday night... put aside all the voices and noises of the day and went with no agenda to the Lord.... I felt like that moment was spent in eternal heaven.

I received a deeper insight as I was meditating on James chapter 1 that one must not be too engrossed in the worries and concerns of one's heart but actively go to the Lord, presenting it to the Lord through prayers. The Lord can move the mountains and provide the solution to any problems. He alone gives the ability and open the doors to blessings and rest.

I am practicing that now... asking God of anything, if a solution is needed, ask God for one, if a mountain needs to be moved, ask God to move it, if you need provisions, ask God to provide... cos i realised that God being God loves to give out of His glorious riches. Philippians 4:19.

If you need prayers, drop a comment here and I will pray for you.

In The Garden

"He Speaks And The Sound Of His Voice
Is So Sweet That The Birds Hush Their Singing."
- C.Austin Miles

John Ballie - On Prayers

Almighty God, in this quiet hour I seek communion with thee.
From the fret and fever's of the day's business, from the world's discordant noises, from the praise and blame of men, from the confused thoughts and vain imaginations of my own heart, I would now turn aside and seek the quietness of thy presence.
All day long have I toiled and striven; but now in the stillness of heart and the clear light of thine eternity, I would ponder the pattern my life is weaving.

20 Things That God Likes About Me

We sometimes think that God is always mad at us and always asking us why didnt we do better? We feel that we try to win His love for us.

Well.... I agree that we are not perfect people but hey... God really Loves us the way we are now. The Bible says that His love for us is unconditional.

We may still be learning how to be a better person... but the Lord knows it all and still loves us anyway.

So i decided to write down a few things that the Lord like so that I wont focus on the DOING all the time but instead enjoy His love and pleasure on me everyday!

Here Goes.......The Lord Likes:

1) The way I talk
2) The way I look
3) The way I smile/laugh =)
4) The questions I asked
5) The way I sing
6) The way I pray
7) The way I answer phone calls
8) UPS cos He placed me there
9) The way I sleep
10) The sometimes grouchy me
11) The Happy Me!
12) The dreams I have
13) Me although there are things I am not good at
14)The fact that I love reading about Him
15) cartoons cos I love them
16) Soccer cos I love playing it
17) Music cos He made me with ears to listen and enjoy them
18) The Banner that I once made for you
19) Everything about me although some actions He may not agree/like but He loves me cos He created me and knows every detail of my life from day 1 to forever and still loves me...
20) So many things else in the world but still He chose to Like Me!!!

I love God because He first Loves me!

A Chapel Of Our Heart - Brother Lawrence

It is not always needful to be in church to be with God.

We make a chapel of our heart, to which we can from time to time withdraw to have gentle, humble, loving communion with Him.

Everyone is able to have these familiar conversations with God. Some more, some less - He knows our capabilities. Let Us make a start.

Perhaps He only waits for us to make one whole-hearted resolve. Courage! We have but a short time to live.

12 Things I Am Thankful for

I have learnt that if you want to be happy in life, you got to learn to be contented with what you have now. Although it doesnt mean that we should not pursue higher goals in life... but we should also not forget to enjoy the things we have now that prepares us for the future.

In order to be contented, one has to learn to give thanks daily. To be thankful for the things we have, the people we have, the job we have, the health we have, the friends we have etc etc..

As a Christian, i thank the Lord for blessing me. Not a perfect person... but still very blessed!

I want to thank the Lord for a couple of things:

1) My Parents who love me the way they know how and is so sacrificial for me
2) My Girl Friend who is a gift from God.
3) My friends whom the Lord bless me with and one whom the Lord has bless me very much in during this time
4) My Job through which i learnt a lot
5) My church that the Lord placed me in that plays a big role to who I am today
6) My Nanny who took great care of me when I was young
7) My grandma who took care of me from Secondary to JC
8) My JC English teacher who believed in me.
9) My Australian pastor who saw the potential in me and constantly spoke it into me
10) My house... a place of rest and shelter
11) My Creative sound system that accompanied me through the quiet nights
12) My Bed!!! I sleep, read, eat, dream, work and pray on it

Woa!!!! I am feeling happy already!

My Day Today!

Today I had a good but tiring day. Slept late last night as i had finished a conference call at around 930pm, then had a chat with my good friend.

Woke up early today to reach work before 730am. Was feeling sleepy all day, after work, went for G12 group which i enjoyed very much.

I learnt something today..... something which i believed in all the while. I believed that if we asked ourselves this question "What would you really like to do if you have nothing to worry about? "

Now i am not referring to something that is unrealistic, but practically, if you can do something to change/add on your way of life now.... what would you do?

You know more and more I am asking myself am I having a lid over my head that contains who I really am and meant to be? Maybe the lid is slowly opening up for me.... maybe I am beginning to see it.

I enjoy freedom and like it that way. The kind of freedom within proper boudaries... I enjoy good relationships.... I enjoy fun trips... challenging and engaging situations, do new things.... =)

I find relationships more important than measuring results. I agree with proper measurements to achieve objectives.... but sometimes our relationships are just reduced to what you are worth... and the level of communication reduced to what should and should not be done....

It Is Not How Hard You Fight But How Much You Believe

In the story of David And Goliath, David a shepherd boy facing off with a man-mountain, Goliath. David has in his hand a sling and a stone while Goliath arms himself with a shield and a sword.

To the spectator that looks at this two contenders standing face to face with each other in a show-down where one will live while the other dies, it is not hard to believe that this is a one-sided fight. There is no hope for this young boy against this strong and mighty giant of a man, Goliath who has the skills and experience to fight. If they are to place their bet, very likely they will put them all on Goliath.

But as the fight starts, David swung a stone at Goliath, and the mighty force of the Lord who was with David caused that one strike to defeat this giant enemy. The power and the accuracy behind the stone was the Lord's arm. He is the one in battle while David was just an instrument He had used to fulfill his purpose and plan and yes God can used even a shepherd boy.

As I was watching the movie "One Night With the King today", I learnt from a statement made by the character Esther, that the best thing about the fight between David and Goliath was this..."It is not how hard David fought, but how much He believed God". While the rest of the Israelites feared the enemy, David looked at him and believed that the Lord will slay the enemy and provide victory for him and for the nation of Israel.

Beloved, whether we are facing obstacles or things in our lives that causes us to worry and fear.... Maybe it is the insurmountable tasks you are responsible of doing in the office, maybe it is people around you that puts you down, maybe it is the relationship that you are praying to be made whole, or your child who has gone astray.... or the sickness that remains in you... whatever it is... this day, let's choose to look to God who will deliver us... Look to the one who will help us overcome and gives us victory in love. he has promised that when we pray to Him, He will answer us.

John 11:40"
Jesus said to her, "Did I not say to you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?"

Let's put our trust in the Lord today and see His glory in our lives.

God Bless!

He Offered His Love and His Life

If you are a King... mighty and powerful... having the authority to command all the forces in the world to do as you say....having the influence and the wisdom to answer all of life's questions... what would you offer to this world that we are living in today?

If you are someone who has the power to create and call things into existence those that are not.... and has the power to destroy all things you find displeasing in your sight.... what would you do to this world that we are living in today?

This world of joy, pain, peace, strife, laughter, tears, wealth, poverty, different religious and world views, different practices and beliefs... is the real world we live in.

What will you if you are an omnipotent individual choose to offer?

Well... let me share with you what the Lord Jesus Christ chose to offer..

The Lord Jesus Christ, the creator of heaven and earth, having considered all these chose to offer His love and His life to a world that is seeking these within themselves.

When you are feeling down and alone, look to the Lord and find His presence with you.

When you have lost someone, look to the Lord and find His comfort.

When you are sick and needs healing, look to the Lord who is your healer and restorer.

When you need love, look to the Lord who can supply all the love that you need and ever will need.

Now you may ask,"" U-jin, it is so easy for you to say this.. what about those dying, those in poverty, those abandoned?"

My friend, when you and I are being touched by God's love, we shall go forth in kind and in deeds to these people.

The Lord meant for you and I to go forth and bring His healing to the nations. Give your money, time and expertise to help wipe our sysmatic poverty today with God's love.

To the world that is lost .... The Lord offered his life. "I am the Ressurection and the Life. Whoever believes in Me will live" John 11:25

To the world that needs shelter and protection, the Lord offers his love. "For God so loved the world that He gave his only beloved son, that whosever believes in in will not perish but have eternal life" John 3:16

He offered His love and His Life to this world that we live in.

God Bless!

What Should I Do when I Go through Pain

The first thing that comes to a person's mind when he/she lives through pain is that nobody understands. Like it or not, that is one thing we all struggle to come to terms with.

A man/woman is not meant to live alone, much less go through pain alone.

Emotional Pain tends to isolate a person and saps his/her strength away. It is tough living through such a season in life and therefore every bit of comfort will sooth the painful soul is much sought after whether through healthy activites of harmful ones. The choice can be made correctly when you have a friend standing with you.

I believe the first thing a person should do is to come into a community of friends during this season of pain. I have seen some of my close friends who cannot find a group that is mature enough to understand and give help.... but don't give up... keeping searching and praying because this is very important to have a friend/ a group to support you. And dont blame the person who is helping you.... he or she is trying their best in the way they know how.

Learn to communicate your struggles and let the other party know how to best help you. That creates an environment of openess and trusts. Through open communications, both party can help each other learn and grow.

The second thing is to let out your emotional pain through activities or sports. it is very important when dealing with pain to not keep it inside your heart for too long. There must be a correct way to let it out so that it does not accumulate to unhealthy levels.

The third thing is also to let your mind relax. Through constant sharing with a friend or mentor who understands, the words, comfort and encouragement you hear from such a person can help you shape the way you think. It is not easy to walk alone and every needs a friend to listen.

The last thing is to allow healing to take place in your heart. Love must flow into your heart for that healing to take place. That area of brokeness must be mended by love and the feeling of being valued and prized can bring about that healing and restoration, without which a person cannot be fully healed.

And as a Christian, I know that prayer and worhsip to the Lord Jesus brings freedom and rest to one's mind and soul. God's super- abounding grace brings forth such peace and strength that one can feel recharged and hopeful in life's situation. God's love can provide that anchor and assurance that with Him by your side every second of the day... the rest of your questions and doubts are answered!!

God Bless!

How do I walk through Pain with Someone

Have you been through life see a friend feeling pain for a considerable amount of time?

Pain causes a person to see things in a whole new way. It can remove pride, gives you strength and helps you move closer to God. Growing in wisdom and inner strength through its experience.

Pain may also have negative effects.... It may create more negative thoughts, develop a low level of self-esteem, develop a sense of isolation, makes a person more moody and easily irritated.

And the positive and negative effects of pain can both take place at the same time in a person's life.

"Nobody understands!" Thats what he/she will say... True isnt it? Nobody really understands unless they go through it before or if they choose to walk alongside with you to listen and to contemplate, putting themselves in your shoes rather than from their own perspective.

It involves time and also trust both in the person who is going through it and also for the person who is walking alongside you. It involves looking beyond the person with the pain, and see the transformed life that this pain, if properly dealt with , can do in his/her life.

Words of correction should be given in a creative way. More than 70 percent of people I know are not receptive to such direct and harsh words when they are in the center of such a struggle because the opposite side does not fully consider and understand things surrounding such a behaviour or situation. Things like family culture, their background, work pressures , the pain that coexists with these.

I have learnt recently that before i give advise to anyone, I need to consider the things that are happening to him/her. Her family situation, her background, her level of understanding, the pressures he/she faces and the best approach to communicate.

It is always easier to put your experience and knowledge and apply it to a given scenario, but it takes prayer and contemplation to know what to say and how to say it. Thats why King Soloman asked the Lord for an understanding heart, that He can rule his Kingdom with justice and stability.

An understanding heart puts one into the persons shoes, as if living his/her life... and then see through thoese eyes into the world and situation he/she is describing.

Then advice and instructions with love can come through better and more effective. Winning the person over rather than challenge I believe should be the approach in this season of pain.

Comfort and advice in the same way the Lord offer that to you.

I also believe that pain is good but dont expect a person to always take it well when he/she is going through it. King David said in the psalms that he wrote, that even though he was a Brute Beast, the Lord holds his hand.

The Lord loves us even when we go through pain. He doesnt rejects us or blames us when we struggle and become rebellious. To Him, it is better to have you by His side with your struggles then to not have you at all.

He offers strength and comfort in hope that one day You and I will rise up and be strong!! You will see the light in the midst of your pain one day... our tears will be turned into Joy!